Chocolate and Gold Coins

Tuesday, March 07, 2006

The Night My Wife Was Almost Attacked

My wife tells the story of a terrifying experience she had as a young lady in India. She is coming home with her mother on the bus. Why her father isn’t around, I cannot recall and it doesn’t matter. They are alone. It is late.

A man on the bus starts eyeing my future wife. She avoids eye-contact but she can feel his stare. Eventually they get off and begin to walk home. Then they notice that this man has just gotten off at the next stop. He starts walking briskly towards them. They walk faster and he walks even faster. Their home was not far- just a quarter of a mile further. But my mother-in-law-to-be decides to take an auto.

They get in the auto and begin to move when the strange man runs and shouts at the auto to stop! The auto brakes. Her mother shouts frantically, “No, keep going, keep going!” The auto takes off just before the strange man comes.

What was the strange man thinking? Was he really going to attack three people in an auto? Maybe. My wife will never forget it.


  • Maybe she dropped her hanky in the bus and the poor guy was just tryin to return it!!! :-)

    *apols..cudn't resist*

    By Blogger The Arbit Council, at 11:15 PM  

  • hope ur wife is safe now- rape and sexual assaults being alien concepts in America !

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8:02 AM  

  • Michael, I am sorry your wife had to go thru that harrowing experience - if this could happen in the company of others, I think about what she might have felt if she were alone then...

    and I am also sorry you had to read these two totaly insensitive and stupid comments above...

    By Anonymous Charu, at 9:35 AM  

  • make that two stupid and one _eager_beaver_overzealous_sympathiser_ comment above!

    it was a joke. i already apologised. so chill madi.

    By Blogger The Arbit Council, at 11:45 AM  

  • Hi Arbit, Anon, and Charu
    Arbit: Well -who knows. Seriously it could have been a misunderstanding. But my wife doesn't think so.

    Anon: No one is safe anywhere - not 100% and certainly not a woman. But hopefully she will be safe here.

    Charu: I cannot imagine that this guy would have taken on 3 people, but it is scary. Maybe he had a weapon. I don't know. My wife was really scared.

    By Blogger Michael Higgins, at 12:26 PM  

  • awful. What makes me feel worse is that almost every woman i know has one or two nasty experiences to recount.

    By Blogger Sunil, at 1:26 AM  

  • im sorry your wife had to go through this. how does she look back at this experience?

    By Blogger Jasmeen, at 1:47 PM  

  • Hi Sunil and Jasmeen
    Sunil: It sounds like a scary incident. I have no idea what this fellow was going to do. We don't know for sure that he was planning to do anything really. But my future wife and her mother were not going to wait and find out.

    Part of the problem is that woman might be fearful of situation that really are not dangerous but she doesn't know that. I think about Vikrum's post and the fact that no woman would help him off of the rock because they feared coming in contact with him.

    Jasmeen: She has told this story a few times to me. She views it as a genuine near miss of a very serious incident and it fills her with dread. She feels she that she came close to some dreadful incident - and maybe she did. It does sound very scary.

    Luckily, she doesn't think about it too much anymore.

    By Blogger Michael Higgins, at 3:08 PM  

  • I was just chasing the Indian lady. How I am suposed to know she will be your future wife ? As to why I was chasing her, well she was pretty and I was single and ok he had dropped one hanky also if that makes you happy. Anyway now I am married and she also married and you married also and we are all writing on this blog. So how does it feel ?

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5:18 PM  

  • clarifications:
    Purpose was not to trivialise what must have been a traumatic experience for your wife.
    Apologies if feelings have been hurt.
    Would still maintain that a woman's honour does not lie between her thighs. Time for a rethink, maybe?
    Persistent feeling that the insinuation that India is more unsafe for a woman than the USA is a wee bit...racist.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:38 AM  

  • On Anonymous' last comment:

    No, a woman's honor doesn't rest between her thighs. But that is not an excuse for rape, assault, or the fear of such that this man instilled in both CGC's future wife and her mother.

    Yes, the US has sexual crimes. Yes, some people here think that the woman always deserved those sexual crimes. No, that does not make it right. But also, unless you know for a fact that it isn't true, maybe India has more sexual crimes than the US. Or it may be that CGC is assuming that because his wife and mother-in-law have never been bothered in the US.

    I linked to this article when my class discussion on feminism got into the question of whether women are safe. In regards to the US being safer, it is interesting to note that all 20 of the women in my class had been chased/harrassed/threatened.

    By Blogger Suzi, at 1:08 PM  

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